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love2sing

07-07-2007, 10:43 AM

I read in the paper the other day that Saturday would be the biggest wedding day in history. So with my curiosity peaked as ever, I checked the calendar and saw that the date was 7/7/07.

Of course we all know the significance of the number 7! Luck!!!

And I thought...well, the number may be lucky, but it will take a lot more than a number to ensure luck in a marriage. So while the wedding day may be lucky, it's the marriage itself that needs all the luck it can get.

I don't watch too much TV, but every now and then I catch the show Bridezilla and I think to myself, if that girl is getting upset over such things as malfunctioning chocolate fountains and the dress she chose that is 2 sizes too small and does nothing for her figure, just wait until the honeymoon is over.

What do you think are the most important elements for a successful marriage?
My choices are:

1. Compatibility - if you're not getting along before you marry, what makes you think it will miraculously happen after the "I do's?"

2. Make sure you have a lot in common, opposites may attract, but eventually that leads to one partner becoming fed up with compromising.

3. Personality - Good looks are nice, but let's face it, they don't last forever. Go for the personality, it lasts longer.

IMHO

puffpattiduke

07-07-2007, 10:59 AM

I agree w/ all three that you said Love 2 Sing and I'd also like to add flexibility to that list (not in the physical sense, but that doesn't hurt either!!) - you have to be able to roll w/ the changes - people do not stay the same forever. Also, to look at things from the other partners perspective, I mean, to put yourself in their shoes.

puffpattiduke

07-07-2007, 11:03 AM

And I can't stand to watch that show Bridezillas - those women are so damn superficial - I want to throw champagne in their faces!!!! if little things like a broken chocolate machine takes them over the edge, than imagine how will they react when something serious happens :g:

GreggFromJoisey

07-07-2007, 02:24 PM

let me add:
sense of humor
NO jealousy!
I was married 10 years, she had no sense of humor and was jealous when I simply went around the block to take a walk.
They say opposites attract? bullshit!!!

love2sing

07-07-2007, 03:28 PM

I think that at this point EVERYONE knows that I could not live with someone who didn't have a great sense of humor. And my sense of humor has gotten me through some very tough times. Without it, I don't think I would be here.

love2sing

07-07-2007, 03:29 PM

Take right now, for instance, I am balancing my check book and believe me, it takes a great sense of humor to do this.

GreggFromJoisey

07-07-2007, 08:19 PM

OMG LOL L2S!!! I balance mine every morning WHY? Cause no lie my ex bounced about 30 checks in 10 years of marriage!!! And they say MEN are irresponsible???? :sq_yellow_angry:

love2sing

07-07-2007, 09:27 PM

OMG LOL L2S!!! I balance mine every morning WHY? Cause no lie my ex bounced about 30 checks in 10 years of marriage!!! And they say MEN are irresponsible???? :sq_yellow_angry:

Funny you should say that. I never bounced a check until I married my first husband. He was terrible with money and paying bills. After a couple of bounced checks and the landlord banging on my door at 6:30 AM (we were married only 3 months when that happened) looking for his rent, I told my husband that I would be making out the bills!

sarcastic1

07-07-2007, 10:15 PM

Hey I do the bills in my house...............no bounced checks........

SHOELUVRSIS

07-08-2007, 09:41 AM

Hey I do the bills in my house...............no bounced checks........

DITTO! i dont care who you are NO ONE touches my money!

SHOELUVRSIS

07-08-2007, 09:42 AM

GuitarPLYR

07-08-2007, 09:49 AM

Interesting stuff!! I wonder if more people played the Powerball yesterday than ever. Or if more people went to the casino, etc...

SHOELUVRSIS

07-08-2007, 09:51 AM

7 is my favorite # but has brought me no luck - i just like the way it
looks!

a child on 7/7/07 would have been nice - but a wedding? yeesh!

my husband and i are sooooo different/opposite.
studies do show (as l2 pointed out) opposites do attract, but in the
long run its the differences that will cause a split)

been with hubby a damn near decade (and love being married to him - he is so good to me!) and although we are sooo different -
i am a very open minded person and he exposes me to things i would have NEVER brought upon myself and end up loving/liking - does
that mean we are opposites?

i mean it in the sense that id rather sit home and read my book and
he'd rahter go out - ANYWHERE but i just say im reading do what you want -
there is no love lost between us and i trust him - if he's playing ball or at a bar with friends - if he's gonna cheat he could do it everyday at work
neither of us are jealous and our marriage is strong B/C we trust and love so deeply.

love2sing

07-08-2007, 12:50 PM

I thought this was an interesting article.

http://coaches.aol.com/love-and-sex/feature/_a/the-shelf-life-of-bliss/20070702152709990001

zebrarette

07-08-2007, 08:24 PM

We were at the camp in Grand Isle over the weekend. On Saturday....there was a wedding on the beach. It was very beautiful. My mom was walking to meet us at the beach and she stopped to talk to the groom and best man...she asked who was getting married...the best man pointed out to the groom...my mom said...."Well I wish you all the best and hope your marriage last as long as my husband and I...47 years". The best man pipes up and says...."We'll be surprised if it last until next weekend." :roll2:

SHOELUVRSIS

07-08-2007, 09:18 PM

I thought this was an interesting article.

http://coaches.aol.com/love-and-sex/feature/_a/the-shelf-life-of-bliss/20070702152709990001

that was a pretty good article linda cept for me
i dont put much stock in statistics and relationships with anyone
(and i know my professors of my psychology degree would shudder)
i think realtionships like life are what youmake it/them.
7 year 3 year "itch" ? dont buy it.
communication is key.
HONEST communication about EVERYTHING. and the small things do matter/count.

if you understand and BELIEVE in the vows/commitments you are making it is possible to have a 40 50 yr marriage. its work like any other relationship.

I am a believer in the self-fufilling prophecy -

love2sing

07-08-2007, 10:07 PM

GreggFromJoisey

07-09-2007, 10:12 AM

Sorry to hear about that L2S. I guess we all have our horror stories. I am a huge believer in positive thinking
GO RENT "THE SECRET" OR GET THE BOOK TO ALL WHO HAVEN'T HEARD OF IT. IT IS A LIFESAVER

Funny you should say that. I never bounced a check until I married my first husband. He was terrible with money and paying bills. After a couple of bounced checks and the landlord banging on my door at 6:30 AM (we were married only 3 months when that happened) looking for his rent, I told my husband that I would be making out the bills!

SHOELUVRSIS

07-10-2007, 09:25 AM

I agree with you Kel in some ways. Unfortunately, I've been married twice and the novelty wore off very quickly with both husbands while I was still acting like we were on our first date, always putting my best foot forward and going out of my way. After a while it wears a person down when it's not reciprocated. Still, I am a hopeless romantic!

hey hon - i too am sorry to hear that, i always say
if this one doesnt work out i'd never get married again.
honey you have to be true to yourself - forget the first date stuff
they have to love YOU warts and all - and sometimes your
not the "happy go lucky" person they expect/want you to be.
be yourself - let all your colors show - if you do not - your not only cheating them - your cheating yourself! your a sweetie and if your a bitch sometimes
too effin bad for them!

SHOELUVRSIS

07-10-2007, 09:28 AM

Sorry to hear about that L2S. I guess we all have our horror stories. I am a huge believer in positive thinking
GO RENT "THE SECRET" OR GET THE BOOK TO ALL WHO HAVEN'T HEARD OF IT. IT IS A LIFESAVER

i know many who agree - i had a girlfriend at work tell me about that book and its how i've always lived - i dont need to read that book
actually fangc it wounds my heart that people need to read that book to
TRY and be happier - i am a lucky person to be the way i am - i just hope
my children will inherit that more than my dashing beauty!
ahahahahahaha just joking!
sup fangc? write me!

GreggFromJoisey

07-10-2007, 09:46 AM

SHOELUVRSIS

07-10-2007, 10:57 PM

Guess I got into that book for personal reasons after my divorce which I am very bitter about, but less now that I've read it. And no its not a "cult" LOL

http://www.thesecret.tv/home.html

I just recommend it, and any other self help books oh and going to see Zebra is very very therapeutic too!
:punk:

didnt think it was - and please dont ever be that bitter about anything -
gosh darnnit you have kids dont ya? there had to be something good!
let negativity leave you -
if you can change it, change it
if you cant, forget about it !

GreggFromJoisey

07-11-2007, 11:12 AM

Thanks so much! Whatever I'm doing it's working LOL

didnt think it was - and please dont ever be that bitter about anything -
gosh darnnit you have kids dont ya? there had to be something good!
let negativity leave you -
if you can change it, change it
if you cant, forget about it !

mark

07-11-2007, 11:59 AM

As Rocky said.

"If I can change, you can change, we all can change".

Rockys eye ----->:boxed:

GreggFromJoisey

07-11-2007, 03:27 PM

You gotta cut me Mick!!! :34:

mark

07-11-2007, 04:07 PM

Gregg in Crocadile Dundee as one of the thugs trying to hold Mick up.

Mick pulls out the 20 inch blade.

Now ask Mick to cut you Gregg!

GreggFromJoisey

07-12-2007, 05:19 PM

Good one Mark
YOU CALL THAT A KNIFE? LOL :thumb:

mark

07-13-2007, 10:26 AM

The best part was when he grabbed the can of veggies and whipped it at the guy who stole that ladys pocket book and was running away and it smacks him in the back of the head knocking him out cold!

GreggFromJoisey

07-13-2007, 01:32 PM

Gotta love this board. Goes from 7/7 marriage to bitterness over relationships to Mick Dundee! :yikes:

shoeluvr

07-13-2007, 07:44 PM

the morning I got married to my second (soon to be ex) husband, I took my daughter to starbucks drive thru on the way to get our make up done, the total came to $6.66. I should have ran then!

SHOELUVRSIS

07-14-2007, 10:32 AM

love2sing

07-14-2007, 07:48 PM

the morning I got married to my second (soon to be ex) husband, I took my daughter to starbucks drive thru on the way to get our make up done, the total came to $6.66. I should have ran then!

aw sit! you got that right!

My ex-husband made me take our Expedition to the car wash the morning of our wedding. That should have told me right there and then that I'd be wearing the pants in the family.

Let me tell you something, I have always been a full time working mom, but I am very very traditional and I like the man to be the same.

SHOELUVRSIS

07-15-2007, 03:41 PM

l2 i'm a little confused by what you wrote above?
do you mean to say let the man bring home the bacon and i'll raise the kids
type a thing?
if so i totally agree - i mean at least one parent should raise the children
while the other is the breadwinner - on LI tough to do,
my personal self - i'd love to stay home and raise my children,
but i'd rather be the breadwinner - i need to
know that if and when i want i can pick up and go - i hate depending
on anyone for anything - im an adult i can take care of myself!
(this may be b/c i married late in life, so im use to taking care of myself)
but so be it - i would be very scared relying on anyone - promised forevers wonderful marriage or not - these things can change in an instant.

love2sing

07-15-2007, 10:55 PM

First husband:

1) College educated/ Masters Degree.

2) Classic underachiever, which was told to me by his collegues at our wedding. By that time he was a salesman because he found out early on that he didn't care for teaching. He thought I wasn't very intelligent because I didn't go to college; for some reason he measured intelligence by a degree. He was a bit snobbish about his education stating "why should I work with my hands, when I can use my brain?" Ironically, he died from brain cancer.

3) Told me when we first got married that all he needed was his pillow and a remote control. I thought he was kidding...I found out early on that he was not!

4) He came from a very traditional household in that his mom took care of the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, etc. His dad took care of the lawn, car maintenence, household repairs and renovations, ie painting, wall papering, etc. Both parents worked outside the home for most of their lives.
So my husband felt that our marriage should be a carbon copy. It was on my part, except that I did all the things his mom did and his dad did and worked full time. Gave birth to my kids and was right back to work 6 weeks later. I must say that this did cause problems along the way as I felt that he was not pulling his weight.

I hope that when he got to heaven and told God all he needed was a pillow and a remote control that he got his wish. I didn't have a pennies worth of life insurance on him because he insisted we didn't need to spend the money on that and that he was as healthy as a horse. So I was left with three young children and no life insurance, not even money to bury him.

Second husband:

1) Not college educated and unfortunately did not have much common sense.

2) Was a little too in touch with his feminine side for my liking. I won't go into detail, but was very concerned with the way he looked. He dressed impeccably, which I appreciated, but when we got married and he moved all my clothes out of the bedroom into the basement to make room for his vast wardrobe, I was...shall we say...perturbed by that. Still, I let that go.

3) Was too into telling me how to decorate the house. He was forever moving things to spots he thought were better. And forever comparing our house to the house he shared with his ex-wife. I don't know about anyone else, but that gets old quickly.

4) He did love working outside, planting and such and I truly appreciated that because I hate doing any kind of outdoor work. I did enjoy watching him work outside while I sipped a glass of wine.

5) However, he liked to help in the kitchen, which I don't mind at all, but he would tend to take over and was not complimentary at all toward anything I cooked. He is the only one I've ever met who didn't think I was a good cook. Ironically, after we separated he called me up and asked me how I made my meatballs. I told him to call his mother or his Aunt Carol and get their recipe because every time I made meatballs and he would eat them, he would immediately say, "I have to call my mom or my Aunt Carol and get them to give you their meatball recipe." I hope he is making meatballs right now.

6) The biggest problem with this marriage was that there was no compromise, if he wanted to plant a bush in a certain place and I thought it should be elsewhere he made sure he would plant it where I didn't want it. If I didn't like something, he seemed to do it all the more. We could never agree on anything and I was getting very depressed by the whole situation. One of the worst things he did was shop for the Expedition, with his 10 year old son, took him for a test drive, bought the vehicle and then came home and said "I want you to come see the truck I bought for us." That was just wrong and I was very insulted by that. I wouldn't have dreamed of making a big purchase like that without consulting with my intended.

All of these stories are just a small glimpse of my married life. So Kel, I hope this gives you some insight into my two marriages. It would take a lot for me to go that route a third time.

SHOELUVRSIS

07-16-2007, 10:41 AM

jeez linda i feel for you! and i dont blame you for never wanting to marry
or being VERY careful before you do next time - trust your instincts girl!
it's truly the only "psychic" ability we as humans have.

although i've only sampled your cooking (baking) once - your a superb
chef (you know that already) and i laughed when you said call your
aunt carol or whomever! -frig that man - your so better off without him!
i have a lot of respect and admiration for you being single and raising 3 children - i cant EVER imagine 3 kids and at this point i'm not alone -
scary! and dont you dare settle! if i ever meant it you truly do
deserve the best - hold out for it!